My Every day thinking

Who has Problem 

Having been a disabled person duel to road traffic accident, I usually think that am the one with most problem which are big than any other person.

When I reflect back, there even time when I have preferred to be in prison with a full physical body under all the touchier and hard labor, than being disable and confined to the wheelchair. It was during that time when I discovered that having a person who could pay attention to my condition and have time to listen to me even if he/she dose not say any thing, was the best for help for me as it helped  off load my heard. Of course finding such a person was always difficulty, because not every person coming to near me was willing to listen to my story same people way just not the listening type. (I have come to understand that other people are good at talking and not listen, while others are good at listen and not talking. A few have it both and a few have gifts to make a depressed person talk.)

After this, my discovery, I started training myself to be in the listen group that can make same one talk. But I should mention here that talking, joking and laughing helped me to see this day. Proverbs 17:22 say ‘A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up bones.’  I usually remember a friend in hospital, who had a problem like mine, and the difficult he was going through. I believe that if he found people who could make him talk and listen to what he had to say, his life would have been extended by days, months or even years. This brother could at time chose to be quit, not talk and not eat, but the people at his bard said did not know what to do apart from just  look at him.

Today when I give people chance to express themselves, I have leant that three quotes of those you see walking and laughing around, equally have big problem. Our problem or challengers differ in nature but the most important thing is the approach that one applies to his/her situation or problem at hand.   

 

Friendship

It was on this day that I evaluated my relationship with my friends from childhood to this day.

During my evaluation, I used the two local Zambian, commonly known sayings which are:- ukuangala kwachila ulupo (friendship is greater than blood relationship) this goes with the bible reading from Proverbs 18:24 ‘A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother’  and mezi amata mwa sikuka sauna (also blood is thinker than water in English).

Looking back in my life history, I have had many very good friends and same of which I used to feel there way as good as my blood brothers. While same some it was more like for batter for wise.( a wedding saying) the will be there for each other.

For now, I can easily say ‘friend came friend go’ this is very true because same of those good old friends, I no longer know there way about. The good thing on my part is that, I never fought with any of my friend, we might have had a quarrel once or twice but the used to be resolved (usually one could accept to be the loser and we would move on with our normal relationship)

The common reasons for those friends I left behind includes: –

Change of locations, life style and for a few we had to accept to go different way.

Today when look at friendship I put the bible reading from Proverbs 22:24-25 which says ‘Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, man lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare’. John 15:12-15 you and I have a greater friend in Jesus.